Learning when to pass is easy. Stand near any field and you will hear dozens of parents who never played the game yelling to pass....

For the past couple of months I have been coaching a U10 Boys team and although I adhere to most of my personal philosophy regarding youth soccer development, I feel that I always fail in so many areas.  I am never happy as a coach and it is never about the boys’ performance, but rather the way I carried myself during the match or training session and how I managed the game.  I find that I need to keep studying and learning and talking to people about it or I fall back into my conditioned ways of focusing on winning.   I’ m far beyond win at all costs, but I do win at some costs and I desperately want to get past that. 

I believe strongly in the game being the best teacher.  I believe in positive coaching and doing my best to keep kids feeling confident to try creative things on the pitch.  I praise my players and give them positive reinforcement.  I rotate my players so that different players sit at the beginning of each game and my players get equal playing time.  I strongly believe that up to 13 years of age, this must be the way.  Consistently sitting on the bench kills kids’ confidence and does nothing to develop the creative players that our country lacks today.

I encourage my players to hold the ball and use their skills rather than just boot it away.  I believe that the game will teach them best, I really do.  By holding the ball and trying to dribble defenders they will learn far more than if they just pass the ball away as quickly as possible.  Kids need to have successes and failures on the field on their own to learn.  Every time a parent or coach yells for a kid to boot the ball or kick it away or pass, we are removing an opportunity for a player to potentially do something special and learn something that may stay with them forever.

Learning when to pass is easy.  Stand near any field and you will hear dozens of parents who never played the game yelling to pass.  If mom and dad, who really know little to nothing about soccer, can get it why can’t we trust that the kids will get it when they are a bit older?  We only have until a kid is 12 or 13 to develop their skills.  After that, teaching passing and tactical play is a breeze.  Developmentally they are more prepared for it at 13 and we didn’t waste valuable moments that they could have been developing skills.

I refuse to be a remote control coach who tries to manage every move my players make.  I make corrections off the ball.  I call players over to give them a bit of guidance…I generally sit and watch my kids play taking note of things we can work on.

In training sessions I insist that the players are all involved and I teach through 3v3 and 4v4 games rather than drills where the kids are lined up.  For me, practice time is so precious and I would hate to waste any time running the kids without the ball or sitting for 5, 10, or 30 minutes listening to me talk.

I play my kids in all different positions because I think it helps them to learn more and develop more fully as players.  At age nine or ten no one knows what type of player a child will become so we must play them in different positions.  I believe that we effectively kill off potentially great, magical soccer players every season by forcing them into positions at an early age and never letting them out.

Despite all of this I still fall short in one area.  I really love to win.  I suppose it is my competitive nature as a lifetime athlete.  Maybe it is that old American ‘exceptionalism’.  Whatever it is, I do secretly pride myself on winning.  I don’t win at all costs.  I do adhere to my philosophies, more than most, but I do let my decision making be driven by my desire to win.  I still think I “get it” more than most people, but I do still fall short in this regard.  I have to get better at this to become the coach I desire to be.

I believe we (I) must take our focus off of winning and move it to developing players fully so that they understand the game at their core, not by us teaching them, but by learning and feeling the game all around them.

Immersion. 

I promise you that Lionel Messi, who is by far the most magical and creative players in the game today was not born that way and wasn’t trained to be the way he is, but rather he developed.  He plays like a child.  He doesn’t think – he just plays instinctively.  This is the opposite of the American way right now.  Our soccer is run by guys who played in college and use lots of catch phrases and run patterns and can analyze systems of play…blah blah blah. 

Many of the most valued coaches and trainers in our country are the exact opposite of what we need.  This system is so entrenched right now, that it will take one or two generations of “soccer guys” (and gals) to cycle out before we see any real change.  National team boss Jurgen Klinsmann is a great soccer mind who has the right ideas, but has his work cut out for him.  I hope that if he stays strong and can have some impact on the entire system, then we might have a chance…

The reality is that to truly develop magical players we need to move away from this focus on competition.  That may be a lot to ask.  Competition is at the core of the Americans psyche and maybe that is not a bad thing, but it doesn’t do a lot to develop great players.  Soccer is so different than nearly every other sport in the planet and certainly in our country.

Since the competition is likely here to stay, we need to work even harder to create ample opportunities for kids to play in an environment that fosters experimentation and creativity.  Whether it is a formal part of our training schedule or it is on the street, in the parks, at school or at one of the many indoor places popping up that run pickup sessions, kids must play massive amounts of unstructured games between 5 and 13 years old if we really want to be competitive in the world when it really matters at the national team level.

 "Street Soccer"

I don’t know that I will ever stop wanting to win, but I hope that as I continue growing as a coach, that I will do a better job of trusting my players and allowing them to grow and struggle, and sort things out for them selves.  I am stealing this line from another article I read about developing players, but…give someone a fish and they will eat today, but teach them to fish and they will be able to eat for a lifetime.  The same applies to our players….